Our new men’s group therapy is starting!
Peak Performance for Modern Men
Are you a man between 22-30 years old who struggles with feeling like you’ve got your life on track? Do you want a relationship, but have been hurt before and just have avoided dating altogether? Wish you felt more confident? Well, there’s a new group starting here at Coaching Through Chaos just for you! If you’ve never been to a men’s group therapy session, don’t worry, this group will feel more like an interactive class. We want you to get the most out of this experience!
Josh Hudson, IMF (619) 881-0051 ext. 5
To help men find and keep their ideal partner by teaching them to reach their full potential and accept themselves in the process.
TBD (approx. end of February 2017)
Coaching Through Chaos 2535 Camino Del Rio South, Suite 355 San Diego, CA. 92108
Who’s it for?
Men, age 22-30, who wish to feel more confident, more assertive, develop healthy relationships and understand themselves better.
Topics to Covered*:
• Building Self-Confidence
• Stress Coping Skills
• How to Develop Healthy Relationships
• How to handle Rejection
• Overcoming Relationship Fears
• How to Set and Achieve Goals
22-30 (if you know someone who could benefit from this group and they are above or below this age range, please let me know – I’d love to find a group for them).
$30 per session, pre-paid (cash/check/charge/HSA).
• Weekly for 8 consecutive weeks
• 1 Hour
• Educational- there will be weekly topics for group learning & discussion For more info and to make referrals, contact Josh: (619)881-0051 ext. 5.
*Topics may change based on group needs. Please call with any questions you may have.
Josh Hudson is Supervised by Dr. Colleen Mullen, MFC43476
A Shout Out to Bennett Sullivan
from The Coaching Through Chaos Podcast
Here at the Coaching Through Chaos Podcast, we are really thrilled to give a shout out to Bennett Sullivan on his budding success. If you’ve been listening all the way to the end of our episodes, you’ll have heard me say, “I want to thank Bennett Sullivan Music for my theme music”. Bennett took an idea we had for theme music and made it come to life for us. For those that don’t know, Bennett is an up-and-coming professional banjo player. He has been teaching banjo and creating apps for those wanting to learn how to play (banjo & guitar) for several years. The apps are called Listen & Learn and you can find them here. On stage, he’s been playing professionally with bands and in shows since he was a teenager. He recently played banjo on stage with Elle King for her performance on The Tonight Show with Jimmy Fallon. Currently, he is a part of the cast of the Steve Martin & Edie Brickell play “Bright Star”.
From the Bright Star website:
“Directed by Tony® winner Walter Bobbie, this wholly original new musical tells a sweeping tale of love and redemption set against the rich backdrop of the American South in the 1920s and ‘40s. When successful literary editor Alice Murphy meets a young soldier just home from World War II, he awakens her longing for the child she once lost. Haunted by their unique connection, Alice sets out on a journey to understand her past – and what she finds has the power to transform both of their lives. Inspired by a real event, BRIGHT STAR is a rare and uplifting story about embracing the truth of who we are, even when it’s not what we envisioned.”
I had an opportunity to see Bright Star when it debut in its initial run here in San Diego. Bright Star opens on Broadway this month. In addition to this, Bennett has started a video series interviewing musicians for his membership site BennettSullivanMusic.com. In addition to the paid membership, Bennett offers so much great free information on the site too! Here’s the first video to give you a taste of what you’ll find. Bennett is interviewing Steve Martin – they even play a bit together! Check out BennettSullivanMusic.com for more information about what he has to offer. Way to go Bennett!! Keep up the great work!!
Bennett Sullivan Interviews Steve Martin
Why you are more likely to complete a marathon than your New Year’s Resolution
The beginning of every race is the same – people take their places in the pack where they think they will excel, the goal is set: finish the race. The runners hear the gun blast or the whistle blow, and they’re off! According to runningusa.org, since 1990, there has been more than a 140% increase in U.S. marathon finishers (224,000 vs. 541,000) and over the past decade, a 40% increase (386,000 vs. 541,000). But when it comes to New Year’s Resolutions, only about 45% of Americans set resolutions and popular research demonstrates that only about 8% of those people actual reach their goals. In fact, 1 out of 3 people drop their resolution before January even ends. That begs the question: Why is it that people who sign up to run a marathon and complete it are increasing in number while those that set New Year’s Resolutions, which are often much less taxing on us physically than a marathon, drop them like hotcakes often before the year really even gets started?
The Difference between completing a Marathon and a New Year’s Resolution
There are many things that make completing a marathon a much more likely prospect than a New Year’s resolution. I realize that this sounds ludicrous, but I promise you, it will make more sense as you read along.
1. The end goal is clear.
If you sign up for a marathon, you know that there is a definitive end point of this task: completing the race on the designated race day. The problem with New Year’s Resolutions is that often people set a vague goal such as, “I want to lose weight” or “I want to feel happier next year”. These are not reachable goals as they are not clearly defined. To increase your chances of completing your New Year’s Resolution, instead of, “I want to lose weight”, change it to, “I want to lose 25lbs”.
2. Training for a marathon is achieved through tangible, motivating smaller goals.
Once you sign up for the race, you don’t sit around until race day and then burst out to run 26.2 miles and expect to complete it. You start a training regimen that is designed with smaller goals in mind. These shorter-term goals (i.e. increasing your run by 1 mile per week) keep you motivated to continue on. Instead of starting 2016 thinking, “I just need to lose 25lbs”, think in terms of a longer-term goal of 25lbs, but smaller, tangible goals of 2-5lbs per month. I know, I know, it can be painful to think of setting a goal of 2-5lbs per month, who does that? People who meet their goals, that’s who!
3. Completing a marathon involves signing up for it first.
People who write down their goals (i.e. signing up for that marathon) are 42% more likely to achieve their goal than those who do not write it down (Matthews, G, 2011). New Year’s Resolutions are often stated declarations. If you want to have a higher likelihood of reaching that goal, go ahead and write it down.
4. A marathon is 1 race – it’s not 5.
Another problem with New Year’s Resolutions is that they often come in pairs or even more. People say, “This will be the year, I’ll lose weight and be more on time!” or “This year, I’m going to exercise more, quit smoking and save more money”. Focus people!! Why must we group everything together?? Pick 1 resolution and focus on that. And, remember to refer back to #1 “The end goal is clear” to write that 1 goal.
5. People often rally social support when they set out to complete a marathon.
You should too! Whether its joining a track club for training purposes or enlisting friends and relatives to come out and cheer them on, completing a marathon often involves an emotional support team. For as much as there is research siding with not announcing your goals for the sake of preserving your motivation (Mahler, 1933; Gollwitzer, 1982), social support often helps a person remain accountable, feel emotionally cared for and less isolated when they set a goal. If you’ve ever known a person who quit drinking, the first thing often suggested to them is to get support through AA and other like-minded individuals. The primary purpose is to find a social support group that understands what you’re going through and can support you emotionally when you need it.
So, what will it be for you this year? A marathon? Or a clearly defined resolution, broken down into smaller steps, written down and supported by friends? I know which one I’ll take.