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Synchronicity, coined by C.G.Jung, is the experience of two or more events which occur in a meaningful manner, but which are causally unrelated. In order to be synchronous, the events must be related to one another conceptually, and the chance that they would occur together by random chance must be very small.

Upcoming Interviews (2015-10-14)


Barton Goldsmith talking about overcoming shyness

Rick Collins of Vets360.org - taking the stigma out of PTS(d)

Mark Borg, Jr., PhD., Grant Brenner, M.D., & Daniel Berry, RN, MHA talking about their new book: ‘Irrelationship”

Matt Shobert – former Fire Chief & Iron Man athlete talking about how his life changed on a dime through a freak accident

Jeff Dill of the Firefighters Behavioral Health Alliance –talking about the importance of suicide awareness among fire fighters

Darlene Lancer – has a new book about  Narcissism

Megan Bearce, LMFT – educating us about the trials and tribulations of couples that deal with “super-commuting”.

Thom Rutledge, LCSW, discussing Self-Forgiveness

The Men’s Story Project

Samuel Hatton, host of The Courageous Self-Confidence Podcast

David Sanchez, PsyD, LMFT discussing the psychology of young children

As we move forward bringing you what you need to succeed, we are pleased to announce the following Guest Interviews coming up on the podcast. Remember - if you want to be featured on the podcast, contact Dr Mullen specifying that which you want to showcase on the Coaching Through Chaos podcast...

Happy Auntie’s Day

Happy Auntie's Day

This week’s podcast episode has been released a couple of days early to coincide with Auntie’s Day 2015.
The podcast features Melanie Notkin, author of Otherhood and Savvy Auntie and the founder of Auntie’s Day.
The special edition episode cover, embedded in the mp3 file and shown above, also serves as our e-card to wish you

Happy Auntie’s Day 2015 to all the PANKS out there !


You can find the companion article for this podcast in our previous post: Otherhood with Melanie Notkin

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Second Saturday – Divorce Workshop This Saturday!

Second saturday divorce workshop logo

I’ll be a guest speaker at this weekend’s Second Saturday workshop. This workshop is for anyone going through the process of divorce, or thinking about it. This workshop is designed to educate you about the emotional, financial and legal aspects of divorce. It is presented to you by Wife.org.

The following aspects of divorce will be covered in this workshop:

  • Legal: If you have questions about what to expect from a legal standpoint, there will be an attorney there providing you will the reasons why you would, or why you would not hire a lawyer to get through the process. The divorce process will be explained and you will leave with an educated understanding of what your options are.
  • Financial: The financial aspects are covered by a Certified Financial Planner. He can tell you about how to understand what counts as a “financial asset” and the information you will need to best protect yourself and amicably complete the financial portion of your divorce.
  • Emotional:The emotional aspects of divorce will be covered, this time around, by me. I’ll walk you through how to tell the kids, how to take care of yourself and what to know about the emotional process of divorce. The article covering this presentation is available here: How to divorce and keep your sanity.
  • Real Estate: You will also hear from a Real Estate specialist who can advise you on the aspects of how to most amicably handle the real estate portion of your divorce.

Then you’ll hear from Triad Mediation. Triad’s owner, Jo-Ann Little, will tell you her personal motivation to build Triad Mediation after her own divorce. She’ll then cover what Triad has to offer and how you to connect with them if you wish to find out more.

The entire workshop lasts 3 hours. Most of the speakers, myself included, are not paid for our time, but we see it as a relevant service to provide to our community to better prepare our San Diego families for embarking on this process in a healthy, well-prepared way.

In addition to all the fantastic information you’ll gain from the scheduled speakers, there will also be time to “ask the experts” at the end of the workshop where you can get personal questions answered, or set up meetings to follow up with them at a later date.

Time: 9am – 12pm
Place: UCSD Extension: 404 Camino del Rio South, San Diego, CA 92108
There is a fee for this workshop, but if you pre-register, there is a discount! You can register here.

National PTSD Awareness Day

The Defense Health Agency (DHA) acknowledges Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) as an ‘invisible wound of war’.
Within the DHA’s clinical support division, John Davison serves as a clinical psychologist; he is also the chief of condition-based speciality care.  Terri Moon Cronk a reporter with DOD News provides an insightful synopsis of the interview with John Davison in the following article
DOD Observes National PTSD  Awareness Day – By Terri Moon Cronk

The Senate established PTSD Awareness Day in 2010 following then Sen. Kent Conrad’s efforts to designate a day of awareness as tribute to Army Staff Sgt. Joe Biel of the North Dakota National Guard. Biel suffered from PTSD and took his life in April 2007 after returning to North Dakota following his second tour of duty in the Iraq War. 

Biel’s birthday, June 27, was chosen to mark PTSD Awareness Day and honor his memory.
– Davison, quoted by Terri Moon Cronk


What are the symptoms of PTSD?

Davison [24Jun2015] emphasized the importance for Service members, veterans and their family and friends of recognizing the signs and symptoms of PTSD.  Returning members may not talk about traumatizing experiences, but others around them may recognize their effects. Signs of PTSD can include re-experiencing the trauma, avoiding reminders of the trauma, and disturbances in thoughts or moods.  Isolationism, withdrawal and avoidance of public places are common, as well as emotional detachment. ‘Survivor guilt’ and hyperarousal are also indicators.

Treatment is available

Davison further reinforces that the disorder is treatable at any stage of severity or onset.
People with symptoms ought to seek treatment early before symptoms worsen or they resort to unhealthy coping mechanisms, such as abusing alcohol or drugs.  The DoD and the VA have gone to great lengths to increase access to evidence-based treatment for PTSD, which range from various psychotherapy approaches to pharmacotherapy. Counseling is available from an individual’s primary care doctor, and they also can talk to a behavioral health provider.

Where to get help for PTSD (VA.gov)  Resource list of counselors and therapists in the military, VA and community who provide treatment for PTSD.

Virtual Reality PTSD Treatment

The inaugural episode of the Coaching through Chaos podcast featured Dr. Wiederhold of the Virtual Reality Medical Center in San Diego. He discusses the highly successful results of this treatment modality and its use in theater and in VA clinics.  Listen to Dr Wiederhold speak about PTSD treatment in our podcast.



The National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) classifies PTSD  symptoms into three categories:


1. Re-experiencing symptoms:

  • Flashbacks—reliving the trauma over and over, including physical symptoms like a racing heart or sweating
  • Bad dreams
  • Frightening thoughts.

 Re-experiencing symptoms may cause problems in a person’s everyday routine. They can start from the person’s own thoughts and feelings. Words, objects, or situations that are reminders of the event can also trigger re-experiencing.


2. Avoidance symptoms:

  • Staying away from places, events, or objects that are reminders of the experience
  • Feeling emotionally numb
  • Feeling strong guilt, depression, or worry
  • Losing interest in activities that were enjoyable in the past
  • Having trouble remembering the dangerous event.

 Things that remind a person of the traumatic event can trigger avoidance symptoms. These symptoms may cause a person to change his or her personal routine. For example, after a bad car accident, a person who usually drives may avoid driving or riding in a car.


3. Hyperarousal symptoms:

  • Being easily startled
  • Feeling tense or “on edge”
  • Having difficulty sleeping, and/or having angry outbursts.

Hyperarousal symptoms are usually constant, instead of being triggered by things that remind one of the traumatic event. They can make the person feel stressed and angry. These symptoms may make it hard to do daily tasks, such as sleeping, eating, or concentrating.


It’s natural to have some of these symptoms after a dangerous event. Sometimes people have very serious symptoms that go away after a few weeks. This is called acute stress disorder, or ASD. When the symptoms last more than a few weeks and become an ongoing problem, they might be PTSD. Some people with PTSD don’t show any symptoms for weeks or months.