While I was collecting my intern hours for my state licensure as a Marriage & Family Therapist, I worked in an incarceration-diversion program. As with any recovery programs, there is mixed participation from the clients, but it was there that I developed a love for working with people who truly wanted to kick their addictions.!
This article is a reflection piece of a one such participant.
Drug court participant reflects on life-changing program
by Taylor Hoffman
Avoid ‘The Four Horsemen’ !
Dr. John Gottman’s research on relationships has lead to his uncovering of 4 predictable relationship killers – he coined them “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse”. They are Criticism, Defensiveness, Stonewalling & Contempt. This animated video was recently released by The Gottman Institute to explain how the Four Horsemen can really spell trouble for your relationship.
If you’d like to know more, I practice Gottman Method Couples Therapy and would be happy to teach you some more effective ways of communicating with your partner.
Youtube video: The Four Horsemen
For those working in the field or dealing with their own or someone else’s ventures in recovery from addiction, this is an interesting read. Words have so much meaning – this poses some thoughts on how or why we would describe someone as “in recovery”.
It’s Time to Reclaim the Word ‘Recovery’ – by Maia Szalavitz
This is a great, easy to read article on some basic strategies to help overcome Performance Anxiety. These basic exercises can help most anyone improve their game. Please contact me if you would like to learn how to integrate these strategies into your life…or if you already have and you still need some help!
As you may know, I practice Gottman Method Couples Counseling. This is a research-based method for helping couples feel closer, decrease physiological reactivity, and communicate in ways successful couples do. When Dr. John Gottman was gathering his research over the last 40 years, he helped couples go from being “Disasters” to “Masters” in the area of successful relationship skills. The following article explains some of the science behind the Masters and Disasters concept.
If you relate to what you read and want to now more, I’d be happy to tell you more about it!
The Science Behind Lasting Relationships