Do you want more relationship satisfaction ?

Avoid ‘The Four Horsemen’ !

Dr. John Gottman’s research on relationships has lead to his uncovering of 4 predictable relationship killers – he coined them “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse”.  They are Criticism, Defensiveness, Stonewalling & Contempt. This animated video was recently released by The Gottman Institute to explain how the Four Horsemen can really spell trouble for your relationship.

If you’d like to know more, I practice Gottman Method Couples Therapy and would be happy to teach you some more effective ways of communicating with your partner.

Youtube video: The Four Horsemen

The Research behind the Masters & Disaster of Relationships

As you may know, I practice Gottman Method Couples Counseling.  This is a research-based method for helping couples feel closer, decrease physiological reactivity, and communicate in ways successful couples do.  When Dr. John Gottman was gathering his research over the last 40 years, he helped couples go from being “Disasters” to “Masters” in the area of successful  relationship skills.  The following article explains some of the science behind the Masters and Disasters concept.

If you relate to what you read and want to now more, I’d be happy to tell you more about it!

The Science Behind Lasting Relationships

Five Ways to Resolve Conflict

 Need to resolve conflict at home or in the workplace? These five ways can help you get started in the right direction…

  1. Identify the problem.
  2. Speak with a purpose. Think before you speak.
    What is the point you are trying to make?
  3. State your viewpoint clearly and concisely.
  4. Keep your tone calm. Two (or more) persons speaking loudly in order to be “heard” are rarely listened to.
  5. Be gracious no matter what the outcome. It is alright to agree to disagree. Conflicts are not contests, the goal is not to win, it is to resolve a problem.