When you love someone with an addiction, life often feels like you cycle between a hurricane and a honeymoon. I grew up on Long Island, about an hour outside New York City. It was usually a very pleasant and seasonably predictable place to live. That being said, some of my most memorable moments gro...
I think of depression as the silent killer. Way too often, depression gets hidden behind the scenes of our public life. We don’t tell our friends or family, because we don’t want them to worry. The trouble is, not talking about being depressed & getting some support keeps the cycle of sadness going.
This is a graphic Coaching Through Chaos adapted with permission by Students Against Depression. It depicts the silent signs of depression. If you are experiencing a combination of these symptoms, or you suspect someone you care about may be experiencing these symptoms, there is help available. But before you get help, just start by telling someone you’re not feeling as well as you’d like. When a friend says, “How are you?” Don’t say, “Fine”. Tell them, “The truth is, I think I’m depressed. I’m not sure what to do”. They WILL want to support you.
And they may also relate. Depression strikes 1 out of 4 women and 1 out of 5 men. You are definitely not alone.
Seek out a licensed counselor to start understanding yourself and your depression better. There are connections to make, thoughts to unpack and ways to learn to cope. A qualified therapist is trained to help you do those things.
Don’t let your depression take you out. Fight back.
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is 1-800-273-8255
In California, the team at Coaching Through Chaos is ready to help you too. We can be reached at (619)881-0051.
You can change the path you’re on at anytime. Is it time to take a different path? Sometimes things happen that cause us to feel out of control, but if we look and listen to what happens around that occurrence, we often have lessons we can learn from it.
This pic was taken on New Years Eve 2017. About 90minutes after this was taken, I slipped on the gravel and broke my fibula & earned a sprained ankle & knee- OUCH! (Much respect to the paramedics that helped me off the mountain)
I was laid up in bed the first 10days as doctors orders. When my injury happened, I panicked. I thought, “How am I going to run my business? This is a terrible way to start the year!” But very quickly, my perception of the meaning of the incident changed.
Very quickly, I decided that there must be a reason my always-busy, fast-paced life was forced to slow down. I realized as the year ended, I had been in panic mode about a few things: a dip in business, a relationship that felt fragile, worry about a family member. The time I had by being forced to be on the couch allowed me time to slow down, breathe and take in the facts of my circumstances without all the anxiety that comes when we don’t feel like we have time to think.
I realized that 1. My business is absolutely fine- I had taken a bad month (Dec) & catastrophized about it- lots of people take breaks from therapy in Dec- Next year, I’ll plan for alternate things to do if I’m gifted some end of the year free time by my clients. I actually did more sessions from my couch in those first 10days if Jan than i had in the last 2 weeks of Dec. 2. I needed to look at what was going on in my personal life & make some tough decisions so that I could be more open to finding a healthy partner in the future. And 3. My worry for my family was totally appropriate, but I had to let go of the idea that I was responsible for circumstances I have no control over.
By day 10, when I rejoined with the outside world, as people heard my story and said, “That’s a terrible way to start the new year”. I replied, “Totally not true. 2018 is off to a great start!”
Lesson learned: It’s so worth it to slow down when you’re feeling overwhelmed with life. Breathe and explore what your anxiety/stress is focused on. Revving your engine to keep going when your already in hyperdrive, will just cause you to blow a gasket.
My post 2 days ago was about “Love being all around us”- I expected that to be the message for a standard Valentines Day, but in the wake of the #Parkland school shooting tragedy, I want to reiterate the message on a much deeper level. In the midst of tragedy, there is still so much love around.... in the families reunited after, in the brave souls who took actions to prevent it..in the first responders who put their lives on the line every day... & in those holding the parents and loved ones who are feeling unthinkable loss today... and in all the rest of us who keep hoping someday all people will be loved enough that these tragedies will stop. ...