One of the most difficult jobs people have today, is raising a child. Parenting a child is

challenging and there are no rule books or manuals on how best to raise an emotionally healthy

child or teen. How can parents respond in ways that foster a child's self-esteem and promote a

positive self image? By identifying a child's strengths and altering one's parenting style to

facilitate the growth of these strengths, children and teens will develop self-confidence, values,

a secure sense of self and will allow them to reach their maximum potential.

 

1. IDENTIFY YOUR CHILD'S STRENGTHS

Strengths are identified as tasks or actions that we do well. These may include talents, abilities,

or skills.When identifying your child's strengths, look at your child's natural talents. Identify

which activities or environments that they're drawn to. Are there particular skills that they learn

easily or do them become engrossed in certain activities? Are there activities your child

participates in that is met with joy and enthusiasm? Once you can identify your child's strengths,

then it's time to develop them!

2. FOSTER THE DEVELOPMENT OF YOUR CHILD'S STRENGTHS

Facilitating the development of your child's strengths is most easily done when parents are

focused on what their child does well, rather than focusing on their weaknesses. When

developing a child's strength, parents should encourage a child to pursue what they're good at.

Accepting and celebrating a child's unique strengths is key! This can be especially hard for

parents if their child's strengths and natural talents are not what we thought they'd be.

3. AVOID USING NEGATIVE LABELS

It can be especially challenging for a parent to point out strengths when their child misbehaves

or violates a parent's trust. However, during troublesome and complicated situations, children

and teens need to be supported in order to gain insight into the situation and develop strategies

to effectively manage similar situations differently in the future. Parents can be supporting during

these distressing times by REFRAMING problematic situations by identifying which aspects

were positive, PRAISE positive choices made by your child, and REVIEW the situation and

allow your child to explore ways in which they could have handled the situation differently in the

future to ensure a better outcome.

4. BE UNCONDITIONAL

Accept your child's positive attributes as well as their weaknesses. Each child is unique and

differences should be celebrated!

5. IDENTIFY YOUR OWN STRENGTHS TO BECOME A BETTER PARENT

Developing your child's strengths is best facilitated when parents know their own individual

strengths. This provides a framework for parents and children alike to learn and grown in a

unique and specific manner.

Strength based parenting can be challenging at first and requires on-going learning. However,

once you learn the technique that is the best fit for you and your child, then it becomes

exponentially easier. For more information on how to utilize Strength-Based Parenting visit:

https://www.gallupstrengthscenter.com/Home/en-US/Parenting