One of the most difficult jobs people have today, is raising a child. Parenting a child is
challenging and there are no rule books or manuals on how best to raise an emotionally healthy
child or teen. How can parents respond in ways that foster a child's self-esteem and promote a
positive self image? By identifying a child's strengths and altering one's parenting style to
facilitate the growth of these strengths, children and teens will develop self-confidence, values,
a secure sense of self and will allow them to reach their maximum potential.
1. IDENTIFY YOUR CHILD'S STRENGTHS
Strengths are identified as tasks or actions that we do well. These may include talents, abilities,
or skills.When identifying your child's strengths, look at your child's natural talents. Identify
which activities or environments that they're drawn to. Are there particular skills that they learn
easily or do them become engrossed in certain activities? Are there activities your child
participates in that is met with joy and enthusiasm? Once you can identify your child's strengths,
then it's time to develop them!
2. FOSTER THE DEVELOPMENT OF YOUR CHILD'S STRENGTHS
Facilitating the development of your child's strengths is most easily done when parents are
focused on what their child does well, rather than focusing on their weaknesses. When
developing a child's strength, parents should encourage a child to pursue what they're good at.
Accepting and celebrating a child's unique strengths is key! This can be especially hard for
parents if their child's strengths and natural talents are not what we thought they'd be.
3. AVOID USING NEGATIVE LABELS
It can be especially challenging for a parent to point out strengths when their child misbehaves
or violates a parent's trust. However, during troublesome and complicated situations, children
and teens need to be supported in order to gain insight into the situation and develop strategies
to effectively manage similar situations differently in the future. Parents can be supporting during
these distressing times by REFRAMING problematic situations by identifying which aspects
were positive, PRAISE positive choices made by your child, and REVIEW the situation and
allow your child to explore ways in which they could have handled the situation differently in the
future to ensure a better outcome.
4. BE UNCONDITIONAL
Accept your child's positive attributes as well as their weaknesses. Each child is unique and
differences should be celebrated!
5. IDENTIFY YOUR OWN STRENGTHS TO BECOME A BETTER PARENT
Developing your child's strengths is best facilitated when parents know their own individual
strengths. This provides a framework for parents and children alike to learn and grown in a
unique and specific manner.
Strength based parenting can be challenging at first and requires on-going learning. However,
once you learn the technique that is the best fit for you and your child, then it becomes
exponentially easier. For more information on how to utilize Strength-Based Parenting visit: